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Resignation
or Retaliation?
If your intention
to make a job change is sincere, and nothing will change your decision
to leave, you should still keep up your guard.
Why? Because
unless you know how to diffuse your current employer's retaliation,
you may end up psychologically wounded, or right back at the job
you wanted to leave.
The best way
to shield yourself from the inevitable mixture of emotions surrounding
the act of submitting your resignation is to remember that employers
follow a predictable, three-stage pattern when faced with a resignation:
Tactic
#1: Your
boss will express his shock. "You sure picked a fine time to leave!
Who's going to finish the work we started?" he might say.
The implication
is that you're irreplaceable. The company might as well ask, "How
will we ever live without you?" To answer this assertion, you can
reply, "If I were run over by a truck on my way to work tomorrow,
I feel that somehow, this company would survive."
Tactic
#2: Your
boss will start to probe. "Who's the new company? What sort of position
did you accept? What are they paying you?"
Here you must
be careful not to disclose too much information, or appear too enthusiastic.
Otherwise, you run the risk of feeding your current employer with
ammunition he can use against you later, such as, "I've heard some
pretty terrible things about your new company" or, "They'll make
everything look great until you actually get there. Then you'll
see what a sweat shop that place really is."
Tactic
#3: Your
boss will make you an offer to try and keep you from leaving. "You
know that raise you and I were talking about a few months back?
Well, I forgot to tell you: We were just getting it processed yesterday."
To this you
can respond, "Gee, today you seem pretty concerned about my happiness
and well-being. Where were you yesterday, before I announced my
intention to resign?"
It may take
several days for the three stages to run their course, but believe
me, sooner or later, you'll find yourself engaged in conversations
similar to these. More than once, candidates have called me after
they've resigned, to tell me that their old company followed the
three-stage pattern exactly as I described it. Not only were they
better prepared to diffuse a counteroffer attempt, they found the
whole sequence to be almost comical in its predictability.
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